Exploring Sensual Alternatives to Genital Stimulation

We all know that sex can be a great way to show your partner(s) love and connection. But there's so much more to it than just physical pleasure. Having an enjoyable and intimate sexual experience requires taking the time to build anticipation and arousal, and that's where foreplay comes in. Foreplay involves taking the time to touch, caress and tease one another, but it doesn’t have to go immediately on pleasuring the genitals. There are plenty of other ways to explore intimacy with your partner(s) that allows you to bond and fulfill each other's desires.  

It can actually be the perfect method to extend foreplay, build tension and excitement and, even if you don't plan on having sex, it can be an enjoyable experience on its own! In fact, when you engage in non-sexual foreplay, you and your partner(s) have the opportunity to connect on a deeper level. You'll create a space where you can feel comfortable exploring each other's bodies and minds without the pressure of a sexual outcome! And when creating that space of emotional connection, it makes things easier to feel comfortable and safe when the time comes to explore sexual experiences.

We all know about the usual pleasures that lead us to the act of love-making, so let's take a look at some other ways to spice things up and set your mood on fire:

Massage

The power of skin-to-skin contact is undeniable, and a sensual massage can do wonders on the body and mind. Light some candles and grab the oil, or use a massage candle for two-in-one fun. A sensual massage can help relieve stress and tension from the mody, making you feel more at ease and increases the flow of arousal-inducing hormones and can stimulate passionate urges that lead to a night of pleasure.

Kiss Like You Mean It

Kissing can be incredibly sensual and a great start to foreplay. Lock eyes, press your body against them, and to make it extra special, start off by lightly touching your partner's lips with yours. Slowly move in for deeper kisses, exploring their mouth with your tongue, soft caresses of their face and neck.  

Tease & Caress Erogenous Zones (that are not genitals)

Your partner’s body is a smorgasbord of hot spots just waiting to be touched other than the genitals. The neck and ears, nipples, lips, inner thighs and buttocks, the perineum and a lot more are some common sweet spots! You can kiss, lick, caress and nibble your way through all of those erogenous zones. By taking the time to explore one another’s erogenous zones, you can both discover new ways of arousal you may never have thought were possible. Caressing also sends a signal to our brain and nervous system that results in the release of endorphins, which leads to relaxation and pleasure!

Put out an erotic spread

Set up a picnic on the bed with a spread of some sexy goodies that are made for sharing. Juicy strawberries and cherries with some whipped cream and chocolate sauce for dipping are perfect for feeding — and licking off — each other. And chocolate’s a natural aphrodisiac. Bon appétit!

Striptease

The ultimate tease, a seductive way to get your partner’s imagination running wild and make them look forward to what’s in store for the reste of the night! With each item of clothing removed, the anticipation and desire builds, allowing you and your partner(s) to revel in pleasure and become irresistibly aroused. Don't worry, you don’t need a pole or skillful moves to do striptease. Dim the light, pick a song you like if you want and move your body with it. Take your clothes off slowly and make eye-contact. Don’t take yourself to seriously if this is stressing you, the purpose here is not to make your libido drop!

Roleplay

Turn foreplay into an opportunity to live out your wildest fantasies by engaging in some roleplay. Initiate a dialogue with your partner(s) about what type of scenario you would both be comfortable exploring, then use your imagination to bring the scene to life. Bring in the costumes if you’d like, pretend to be strangers headed for a one night stand when you meet for dinner or drinks, play doctor and naughty nurse, teacher and student? You decide!

Take away your senses

Blindfold your partner while they listen to sensual music with earphones on. Then, take it to the next level and by incorporating sensory objects such as ice, feathers, melted wax, and coconut oil. Not being able to see or hear heightens awareness and anticipation for sensations that are to come. It’s the surprise and mystery that is thrilling. 

Being playful, passionate, and creative are integral parts of having a fantastic sex life. There are oh-so-many ways to indulge in some foreplay before going into the sweet spot, so let your mind run wild and explore all the thrilling options! 

If you want to learn more about foreplay, take a look at this one: Why Foreplay Matters.