How to Give Them The Best Hand Job
It’s time to give handjobs the respect, attention, and copious amounts of lube they deserve.
Handjobs are one of the most common sexual acts and are a great way to pleasure your partner(s). However, it's not always easy to give a great handjob, and it can be intimidating and overwhelming if you're unsure of what to do.
Whether it’s your first time or you’re a handjob master, I’ve written down tips and tricks that will help you step up your game and give your partner(s) a penis-tingling experience they won’t forget.
As you go, remember that every penis is unique, so there isn’t one handjob that fits all—and ask your partner if they’re into trying the variations on this list before you get your hands on them.
Learn the anatomy of the penis
Familiarizing yourself with the different parts of your partner's penis is kind of the basis to take your handjob game to the next level. After all, when it comes to pleasure, it's all about pinpointing what feels good (and what doesn't). So, what are the basic parts of the penis?
Well, first we have the glans, aka the head of the penis. It's sensitive, so tread lightly! Moving down, we have the shaft, which starts just below the head. You can apply varying levels of pressure and grip here, depending on what your partner likes.
Going up again, we have the frenulum. This little guy is located on the underside of the penis where the glans and the shaft meet. It's a super sensitive area, so definitely give it some attention.
And let's not forget the testicles, which are encased in the skin sack known as the scrotum. These can be massaged, gently pulled, or even stroked (again, depending on your partner's preferences).
Finally, between the scrotum and the anus is the perineum - a spot that often gets overlooked, but can be a huge source of pleasure for your partner(s).
Knowing about the different parts of the penis and surrounding areas can really up the ante in your sexual relationship. Plus, the more you know, the more confident you'll feel in exploring and experimenting with your partner(s). There are more parts you should know, so start studying the penis anatomy and make that penis your playground!
Get into your hot position
There are no good or bad positions for a handjob but there are some that will just make your life easier. Try facing each other–they’ll love to see the look on your face as you play with his cock and also, for you, it’s the perfect way to see all their reactions (they can also be lying back while you are between their legs). If you want more caresses and physical touches while doing it, lying next to them is a way to go!
Build tension
A little bit of sexual tension can go a long way in making your handjob one of the best sex acts you've ever given. Don't just grab their dick and start stroking, take your time, kiss slowly and tease them a little bit. Focus on other erogenous zones such as the nipples, neck, or inner thighs to get them in the mood. Try kissing, caressing, or even licking their sensitive spots before moving to their penis. Don't rush it, take your time until they can't take it anymore. Even when you’re down there, don’t forget that stimulating these zones will make this handjob experience more pleasurable for everyone!
*Note that some penis owners can’t stand a build up and can get frustrated if it’s not happening right away, so you can adjust.
Lube, and more lube!
When it comes to giving an unforgettable handjob, remember that the wetter, the better! While some people might think that handjobs are a no-frills affair, the truth is that almost every sexual acts benefit from some added lubrication, and handjobs are no exception. Lube just makes the experience more enjoyable for both of you by reducing skin friction. Seriously, nobody wants a dry handjob — it’s uncomfortable and your hands can’t really do everything they want. To get started, apply a generous amount of lube to your partner's penis at the beginning of the handjob. Don't be afraid to keep extra lube on your hands, as you'll almost certainly want to reapply at some point.
Safety tips: You’ll want to avoid oil-based lubes if a condom is in the game or if you are going to put one afterwards, as these can weaken the material and increase the risk of breakage. Also, avoid silicone-based lubes if you plan on incorporating sex toys into your play. Water-based is always the best option!
Make it harder
Now that the mood is heating up and the lube is doing its job, it's time to focus on getting your partner(s) fully aroused. But don't just dive right in with a hand stroking the penis – you want to make it worth the wait. Start by using the surface on the inside of your hand and fingers to gently caress their shaft and balls. Explore their entire package, paying special attention to the glans and frenulum. Experiment with different textures and amounts of pressure, using light tickling motions with your fingertips or applying more pressure with your palm.
Stroke it
As you build up their excitement, slowly move your hand up and down their shaft, using a mix of stroking and squeezing motions. When you reach the tip of their penis, circle their head with all five fingers and gently squeeze and rub. This will help to increase blood flow to the area and bring your partner(s) to the brink of ecstasy. Don't be afraid to try new things and mix up your technique – you never know what might really push your partner(s) over the edge! Don't be afraid to experiment with speed and pressure to find out what will make their eyes roll back. Just make sure to communicate with your partner(s) and pay attention to their body language to know what they like.
Add a twist
Not only can you play with speed and pressure, but you can also add a little twist. Try a gentel twisting motion in addition to the up-and-down stroking. If your partner(s) likes it, experiment with twisting on the upstroke, the downstroke, or both. For even more mind-blowing sensation, add your other hand into the mix and twist both hands in opposite directions. Just make sure to keep things well-lubricated to avoid any painful friction. With this move in your arsenal, you're well on your way to becoming a handjob pro.
Use both hands
Even if it is not to use the 'twisting' technique, one is good, two is better. That's right, using both hands during a handjob can take things up a notch. Why? Well, for starters, two-handed handjobs cover more surface area, giving you the ability to add speed and control to your movements. Plus, interlocking your fingers to cover their head and shaft while you move your hands up and down, as one, can create a feeling that closely mimics penetrative sex. Lightly squeeze with both hands to make it feel like the inside of a vagina or an anus. You can also use your other hand to tease and play with other parts like the balls, the nipple, the perineum or whatever they like, to make this a full-body experience. Try incorporating the techniques you’ve read earlier in the ‘anatomy’ part!
Bring in all the sex toys
When both of your hands are busy stroking your partner's shaft, or just to add a little extra, incorporating sex toys is an excellent way to amplify pleasure. You can, for example, use a butt plug or a prostate massager to stimulate different areas of the anus during your handjob, use a vibrator to tease other sensitive parts, or why not a cock ring to enhance the sensations. A must try is also sleeves (sometimes referred to as stroker) — because, no, they are not just for solo masturbation. Sleeves are designed to amp up penis pleasure using grip, pressure and textured with a smooth material. Trust me; your partner(s) will love the extra effort you put in to ensure a mind-blowing experience.
**If you’ve never tried a stroker, Tenga Egg Penis Sleeves are an inexpensive way to explore.
Try edging
Edging is the act of bringing your partner(s) close to orgasm and then slowing down or stopping completely. This can create a heightened sense of pleasure and make the orgasm even more intense when it finally happens. When they are about to have an orgasm, gently squeeze the head of the penis or the head and base of the shaft for about 30 seconds. This will prevent ejaculation while maintaining an erection. You can then continue what you were doing and repeat this until your partner(s) is ready to orgasm.
Touch yourself at the same time
It's a common misconception that giving a handjob to your partner means you cannot indulge in the pleasure too. However, this is far from the truth. In fact, using your free hand while pleasuring your partner with the other can be a great way to enhance the experience for both of you. That’s also where sex toys can help if you still want to use both hands on them (because yes, a lot are hand-free fun). Being able to watch your partner(s) enjoy the handjob you're giving them can be incredibly hot. Moreover, incorporating self-stimulation can increase your arousal and energy, which is likely to reflect positively in your partner's pleasure as well. Ultimately, the best handjob is the one where both you and your partner(s) feel good.
Watch how they touch themselves
It’s always good to ask them what they like, but it’s not always easy to describe physical motions. Having them show you how they touch themselves during a handjob is probably the best way to see what they like and how they like it. Seeing their movements, hearing their moans, and feeling their rhythm can help you become more attuned to their needs and desires. A step-by-step lesson can actually be very hot and fun — just ask them to pause along the way so you can try it yourself.
The bottom line
If you are already in a sexual relationship with your partner(s), you probably know what makes them tick. But don't be afraid to switch it up and try something new. Experiment with different tricks to see what works best for them. Remember, a good handjob is not just about the hand motion. It's about the overall experience. So take your time, use your imagination, communicate well and enjoy the ride.
Sources:
https://www.vice.com/en/article/qj8z9v/how-to-give-a-better-handjob-tips-advice
